In 2018 I noticed that I gave a keynote speech in Boston about guilt feelings to a room full of female entrepreneurs. In my speech I said:
“I would rather be a current mother 2 hours a day than a distracted mother for 4.”
A woman came to me after the conversation and said this was her Lightbulb moment. She realized by spreading herself too thinly, nobody got the best version of her.
And this happens in many scenarios:
Check slack while eating with our family
E -Mails send during the gym
Twitter scrolling while he tries to decompcrimage on the couch
In my master class I learn the 5 Cs of lost time.
C #1: Cognitive overload → try to remember too much
C #2: Context switch → try to do too much
C #3: Consumer diet → try to consume too much
C #4: Chaos → Lack of organization
C #5: Calendar Crawl → unrealistic expectations
Let’s concentrate on #2: context switching
On average, people need 9.5 minutes to return to a productive workflow after switching between apps or tasks. Let’s look at a visual of how we lose time by switching context.
So how do we solve it?
Enter: the focus formula
The focus formula is taking all your cognitive sources and placing a single source or task. Others can call this undivided attention.
“That’s nice. But I have so much on my plate and everyone always needs me.”
I hear this a lot in my coaching sessions.
My challenge for you is to understand why you don’t feel that your goals or needs are just as important as someone else’s.
Weak limits are a form of people who like it.
A person’s inability to close distractions (for fear of a text, e -mail, weak, etc.) is usually a fear of losing the love, attention, validation or needed from that person.
If this ping something for you, then it might be a sign to stay here and really sit with it.
Ask yourself who that has modeled that for you.
Who taught you that your needs come in second place?
Ready to take your goals back and apply the focus formula?
Let me introduce you …
The an hour challenge.
For the month of May I challenge you to choose one thing that is important for you that you think you have not received your undivided attention.
Examples:
That project that you want to send this year.
Deepen your relationship with your children.
Strengthening your relationship with your partner.
Invest in friendships.
Choose something that you notice that you say: “If things slow down, I will concentrate on that”
Pause here.
Do not continue until you have the thing in your head.
Do you have it? OK.
Let’s concentrate.
Step 1: Plan it on your agenda
Choose a time that you can keep most days. Depending on the item you have selected, your time slots can vary.
For me – I immediately go to the gym after I drop the children and train from 8.30 am – 9.30 am before I am sucked into meetings or e -mails.
Step 2: Close it.
When that time comes, it’s time to close everything.
Ask yourself: what distracts me the most when I try to concentrate?
Now closed. It. Out.
I keep my phone on “Amanda Mode”, so that only the school, partner and parents of my children can reach me. Everything else has been silenced.
If you are working on a project, you close all non -related tabs.
Even e -mail. Yup, slack too.
Switch off everything that is not related to the project.
If you are working on being more present with your children, remind yourself that it is an hour. You sit with them and play with them for an hour and you can wait all the other.
Step 3: Set a timer
Believe it or not, one of the biggest distractions
We look and start calculating minutes until the next task. We start to think about the next job, e -mail or project. We have lost the focus formula because your sources are no longer only focused on the thing for you.
So set a timer for 60 minutes and go to work.
Where the focus goes, energy flows.
Stop allowing the needs of others to distract yourself from the thing that you find important for the month.
Respond with what you are going to concentrate on and I will come back at the end of May and see how it went !!!
A while ago we wrote a message where Reddit users shared the industries they think they should no longer exist. In the comments, readers of the Buzz Feed community shared more “problematic” industries that they think are really scam. This is what they had to say – as well as the original comments that started a huge discussion:
1.“Companies that own single -family homes. Airbnb. Both have destroyed the housing market.”
—Lisaa31
House with a “for sale” plate in the front garden, surrounded by a lush green lawn and landscaped garden
2.“Bruining -salons. Nobody can have a UVB position/bed, except for medical professionals such as dermatologists.”
—Lisaa31
3.“Telemarketers. All telemarketing calls that I get, either from bots or real people, call me with telephone numbers that are flushed from my contact list. I can’t refuse to answer a phone call from my daughter, but I am really pissed off if it is not my daughter, but a few swelling with my daughter’s telephone number.”
—O/Galaxy_ranger_bob
4.“I block every YouTube channel that makes videos about their family. You sell your child’s face and life for profit, and you don’t deserve children. I hope that the trend of family vloggers will leave one day – they are toxic.”
—Abailey11
5.“Food companies that pay scientists to make processed food more intentionally more addictive and then also pay other scientists to make ‘diet’ food to make people addicted and to offer a fake remedy for the disease and dependence they have created.”
“Then the same companies blame consumers when the ‘diet’ ultimately fails.”
—Meganeileen1000
Shopping shop aisle filled with various packaged snacks and food on shelves
6.“Fast fashion. Clothing that is made to be ultra -disable. They are places looking at trends and make trendy clothing that will fall so cheaply that will fall apart in a year, but that doesn’t matter to the consumer because they want to buy next year’s trends next year, anyway.”
– Leffeman
“Fast fashion is terrible for the environment (fashion is good for 20-35% of the microplastic that ends up in the ocean), terrible for employees (93% are not a livable wage, child labor and bound labor not unusually paid, and many of the factories are unsafe).”
—O/Fairygodmotherfckr
7.Ticket companies are bad than evil. All bots get the good seats, praise them in the thousands and the fans are unlucky. Something needs to be done and fast! “
– Caffie
“Those ticket companies are disgusting, I recently bought tickets for a concert with a sound check party and a meet and greet with the band. The band has canceled the sound check party, and the ticketing company refused to do a partial repayment, so I had to cancel the whole Sounch, or just greet, greetececk, or just greetececk, or just greetececk, or greetececk, or just to be greetececk, or greetececk, or just the money. Cancel, just give my money back. “
—Mutagenic
8.“Everything as a subscription. As a technical employee I understand why this is so popular, but God, I hate it.”
—O/Ihazrice
I can no longer use Microsoft because it is a subscription, and my sister, who wants to go into graphic design, cannot use Adobe Photoshop because it is a subscription. It’s ridiculous. How should people even try to get into the career they want if they can’t afford the tools? She could save for a one -off payment, but she cannot afford the added costs every month.
—Wtherainbow22
9.“The cruise ship industry. They are not good for the ocean life or the general environment. They float petri dishes.”
—Pol1
People walking past a dock next to a large cruise ship
10.“Third -party students Loan ‘Consultants’. I used to work as a federal collector of student loans for a contractor from the Ministry of Education.
“What these legal gray A-hole do is to mislead people to pay for free paperwork on their behalf. Of course, they have the small disclosure of the small print, but they are extremely preaching and make me sick. In my opinion, the removal of them can be worthy of legislation, given that they interfere with federal debts.”
—O/DR3DG3
11.“Covid resulted in such an alarming rise of MLMS and other ‘entrepreneur’/’Be your own boss’/’Girl Boss’ on social media that it is honestly staggering. Ironically, and not surprising, every person I knew in one of these during Covid went a different, more stable job, but only did this in the debts.”
—O/POSXIII
12.“Pharmacy benefit managers (PBMs). Look them up. They are in fact blood -defading between intermediaries who are between hospitals and health insurers. They are supposedly created to control the costs of prescription drugs and formularies, but they actually stimulate prices. One of the many terrible causes of the states.”
—O/TC273
13.“Child modeling and everything that has to do with children who are published on social media.”
—U/Adcharming4503
“I let children’s clothing modeled for shops and such, but when they make 10-year-olds look 20 and ‘sexy’, it’s just creepy.”
—U/Musicalnerd-1
Out-of-Focus Child is in front of a photo shoot, with a large studio light in the foreground
14.“Fokkers do not have to exist. The idea of forcing your pet to become pregnant and getting babies just to take them away is dirty. Sorry is not.”
—Babymagenta
15.“The people who make textbooks cost $ 2,000!”
—O/Fair_plant5156
16.“Auto alers. Give me my direct sale of consumers. Death to the Sleazy intermediaries!”
—O/JSP595
17.“Prisons with profit motive. The problem is deliberate Aiming and oparcere people so that they can place them in a prison with a profit motive. If they did not exist at all, many of those criminals would never have been labeled as such in the first place. “
—O/Jaydvd3
Open the door of the prison cells with bent gate, which leads to a scarce, empty room with metal surfaces
18.“Coal extraction and associated industries. We can switch – it would be good for the economy, our health and our future, but there is not the political willpower to do it at the moment.”
—O/TFLOWR
19.“Gambling. It is a huge problem in Ireland and the UK; there are gambling shops everywhere. I am sure it is the same in other countries and destroys lives. I can’t go anywhere or watch a sport without pushing your throat.”
—O/G3S-Ter
20.“Payment daily loans. It should be illegal to conquer someone in a debt cycle that he can’t get out of. If you can’t already afford to wait for a salary, then it must be inherent in a cyclical arrangement in which a loan is paid and then immediately return to cover the costs.
—O/Ariaofthenight
21.“Health insurance. I need medication. Doctor says I need medication. An insurance employee without medical training is not so certain. Maybe they inspect it in the short term. It works for sure. So it is only six months approved. Then I have to fight every six months.
“Insurance is extremely profitable. And people die because a man needs a third home and a private jet.”
—O/Gary_BOURHOLE
Arts investigating the patient with a stethoscope in a medical office
22.“Plastic bottle water for one-time use. Water in handy packaging is not a bad thing. The problem is more in how we started using them in a non-durable way.”
—U/confident_resolution
23.“The natural diamond industry. We can literally grow them in laboratories sustainably and the same quality, but there will probably always be people who want unethically natural diamonds.”
—O/Apprecate part194
24.“Factory factory for animals. I love animals and respect animals. If you didn’t let it happen to your pet, don’t pay large companies to do it to your food.”
—O/Nosession1674
“I grew up at a small family farm. I agree, factory farming has to go. Family farms treat their animals well and give them a good life.” They were bed and beds every morning before we were allowed to eat.
—O/Snogoats9114
And finally …
25.“Child beauty competitions. I enjoyed doing one as a child. It was just ‘dressed beautiful’ and ‘walking on stage’. But there were no heavy make -up or swimming suit competitions or super photoshopped photos.”
—O/Linafoor
Three young children in extensive parade dresses who make surprised and playful faces in a backstage area
What are some other industries that you think they should no longer exist? Tell us your thoughts in the comments below.
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Even as an American there are things that I come across every day in the US that just surprise me. So when Redditor Spiritual-Vorth6348 asked people to share the generally accepted “American standards” that the rest of the world strangely, I was curious how other countries view our standard practices. This is what they shared.
1.“Remove your credit card when you pay a restaurant account. My European colleagues thought they were being scammed when they first came across this practice! In most countries they bring the card reader to the table.”
Person who places a card on a restaurant account, next to a phone on a table
—Jessieay
“I am Canadian, and my mother and I went to Vegas. The day we arrived there we went to eat in the hard rock cafe and the waitress took my mother’s card from her; my mother thought we were being robbed and my sister, who traveled a lot to America, reassured her.
However, it is so strange. In Canada we simply use our bank card, choose our tip percentage on the machines and we pay there. None of that writing of your tip about the reception sun. “
—Kittyquts
2.“The age of the responsibilities of adults is 18, but mature privileges are 21.”
—Svalue-risico-5918
“I can hire myself, have sex, buy a car, buy a house, get insurance, get married, work, travel everywhere, wishes, legally buying and possessing long guns, plastic surgery of my choice, piercings, getting tattoos, adopting animals, voting and being drawn up. But I forbid a damn cigarette.”
—Frostingtop1146
3.“Unpaid maternity leave.”
Person in a ribbed pregnancy dress that gently cradles with their belly and stands by a window
—Uwnowncouple
“The maternity leave that is super short, such as six to eight weeks.”
—Charlotteraedrake
4.“Cancer bankruptcy.”
—Dinkanddrunk
“Our finances are fucked. I have had cancer for two decades and our oldest daughter had about four years of cancer. We are only paid once a month, and that is another week away. I just undergone surgery a few weeks ago and I fear the bill for our deductible/copay.
Cancer sucks life from you, because it also sucks away every dime. I just can’t believe that after all wise financial decisions we have made consistently, we are about ruin. And I can’t work, so I feel that I am just a parasite about the means of my family. “
—Snobananas7856
5.“Do your own taxes.”
Calculator, Pen and the 2023 US Income Tax return form with financial documents and a paper clip
– Stateofyou
“Doing your own taxes, then getting a bill months later because you missed something. If damn, if you know the amount, send me an invoice and I pay it.”
—Pimpfriedrice
6.“Insurance denies medical treatments.”
-POT POSSIBLE-MIJ
“I needed a jaw operation, and various insurance claims were refused because they had the feeling that I only did it for cosmetic reasons. An agent suggested that I wanted a symmetrical jaw line to be more attractive for men, because I was in terrible pain, lived by my face, lived in a liquid det and strangled.
The hospital came in to help, and everything ran out, but that fight lasted six months. “
—Coolart61
7.“Three of the four TV commercials are prescription drugs.”
A group of people perform in a comic skit on a farmer’s market environment. One person holds out a block with the “Velvredred.”
—Eiffel-Tower777
“I am American, and I think it’s strange as a fuck. I always smile when they say there is a possibility of death while she shows the happiest family. I know they have to do it legally, but it’s still funny.”
—Bit_in_The_ass
8.“To work while you go sick and the possibility to be fired for taking a sick day.”
—Whichrhiannonami
“While I am fever in bed, hoping that tomorrow I will be better for my service because nobody can cover me.”
-MaximumView3828
9.“The price on the shelf differs from the price at the point of sale.”
Price tag on red leather bag shows color as “600 red”, style number “HBR9683,” Group “Sunday drive” and selling price $ 67.00. Barcode included
—Feel-the-avocado
10.“Go in massive debts for education.”
– Nomadicalally Sedentary
“And then the wild interest rates associated with study loans!”
—Awaymethrew4
11.“Associations of homeowners.”
Street view of houses with neat lawns and driveways under a clear sky
—SouLloftheuniverse
“Ah, yes, let me pay a membership costs for Debbie to bully me at the peak of my grass.”
—Birdo3129
12.“American standard measurements.”
– All modern
“Feet and inches are archaic. The metric system is all base 10. Americans share something by 12 or 3,000 something. As a construction worker, I see the failure of this daily. I also think we use much more fractions than necessary. Give me a nice decimal or a smaller unit than an inch.”
— Lethargicbanana2467
13.“I am American, but I wanted to add that saying the promise of faithfulness with our hands over our hearts and looking at the flag was weird afterwards. Every school morning I had to do that.”
Children in a classroom stand with hands over hearts and look up. An American flag is visible in the background
—Otoguynofoelya
14.“Primary schools regularly do active shooting exercises.”
—Adventurous-depth 984
“I will never forget the day that I picked up my (then) kindergarten, and she told us that they have learned how they could hide from the very bad men. She is now in high school and has a legitimate fear of a shooting at school. My heart breaks.”
—LNC_5103
15.“Strange, what I am most fascinated about are the big drinks they get to take with you?
Four people with big drinks in a supermarket, with a focus on the central person in an informal T-shirt with a yellow drink
—Wonderful_corgi5500
“Most people don’t do shopping often, so you get the biggest juice that you can do so it takes. It takes me at least 20 minutes to drive to the nearest supermarket, 30 minutes to the actually good, so I don’t want to pick up more milk every three days.”
–Ererditsuperman
16.“Writing month/day/year for dates. Although I have lived here for more than two decades, I still have to find out what a date in the US is.”
– Speeding Pullet
17.“Storage units. We have some of the largest houses on earth, but still need room for things.”
Open storage unit with boxes, a bicycle and tools visibly inside. Closed units with orange doors are on both sides
—False-Impression8102
18.“I always thought it was strange that Americans faint with the thought of nakedness or a curse word, but still not an eyelid on images of extreme violence.”
– yellower
19.“Heartily, ice cream in drinks. Why, Europe, why do you hate cold drinks?”
Person in glasses drank ice coffee from a plastic cup with a straw, with an informal white outfit
– Storeboughtebutter
“I recently had a work trip to the Netherlands. I had to get ice from the bartender in the hotel bar. They thought I was kidding when I said American hotels had ice makers on every floor.”
—Bravehamster
20.And finally: “One of the biggest problems is that it is legal to buy politicians.”
—Southern-effect-6499
Which generally accepted American standard do you find strange? Let us know in the comments or fill in this anonymous form.
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